I know some of these points might sound a little strange but these are my thoughts...
1. You get to share your life with someone... always.
You know the old saying "I'm married to my best friend"? Well... it can be very true. I mean... of your spouse is not the one who you can confide in and rely in to be there for you always... then there's a problem... right? I love sharing my life with Evan. It means that I have someone to talk to, someone to be alone with, someone to simply share existence with. I mean this past weekend, I was watching Korean drama most of the weekend and he was playing FFXIII-2 and we didn't say a lot, but we were still spending tine enjoying each others company.
2. You have someone to argue with
This might sound really strange, but sometimes things in life just get you annoyed so much you want to yell and scream... if your married... you can do so with your other half... granted its not always the best thing to do... but when occasion strikes... just made sure to apologize afterwards PLEASE!
3. You have someone to share your experiences with
Ok... sure... you could do this with friends too, but sharing experiences with someone you love just seems a little more special. I like to go places with Evan and share or talk about what we did on our way home as we both experience things a little differently and I like to reflect upon his experiences in conjunction with mine to find out what could be betternext time.
4. Thinking alike...
Humans are funny creatures... if we click with someone, we tend to start thinking alike. Most times if we live with someone or click at a deeper level, you can finish one another's sentences, choose what the other person would, and know just what they are thinking. For as long as I have know Evan, we have been able to do this with each other. Sometimes its to the point that we can have the same conversations with a person without hearing what the other had said... its happened before. I can say it was weird to hear a friend recount the convo to me. He and I often finish each others sentences, understand what the other is talking about when they say "put the thingie on the thing and grab the whatchamacallit for me please" and friends stand and stare in awe... which makes me laugh.
5. You can live in a confined space and not kill each other
At our wedding reception, my father told our guests that he admired us because we had lasted together well, and he was sure we would be fine. Why? Because, at that point we had been living in a 1room studio apartment for 6 months and hadn't killed each other. He told our guests that it was not a easy thing to do as when you so this, in a foreign country especially, you have no where to go and hide if you argue, and so he recommended all couples try this. Now, Evan and I have been living together in 1room apartments for 4 years, and we still haven't killed each other. Sometimes we wonder how we've done it, but for the most part, we are super happy. We wouldn't mind a bigger place with more rooms, but thats more so we can spread out and have a luxury or 2, like a sofa or a couple of comfy chairs, maybe a computer room so our bedroom is electronics free so we can sleep easier, but not so we can hide or run away when we have a fight. We learned that the best way to deal with a fight is to give a few minutes to cool off and then apologize and talk things out. Give it a try sometime... it may work for you too.
Well, for now I'm going to leave it here and go teach some students, but until next time...
